So I struggled for over a year, with an ex who didn't want to live with us anymore (I even called it ON video and my foster daughter can confirm it because she was there) and abandoned his daughter when she was 10 months old back in June.
I had decided long before my ex left that I was going to better myself because I knew he was going to leave (Just not in the way he did and with the lies he told everyone)
So I made some baby steps in the beginning. I got a job working with special needs kids and LOVED the job and my boss said I had a way with these wonderful kids and praised my patiences (Not that I needed the praise but it's always nice to feel appreciated) I then made the next steps towards getting my education and started looking for a tutor for my math but wasn't too sucessful as there's not many math tutors to help in this area. So I got reffered to my Work Options program which allowed me to work (and get paid) and to get my education as well for FREE! 5 months later I'm done my phaze 2 and moved onto phaze 3 for work placement. (this means I'm done school and working now but still under the schools paying program, so I work for free for the company I'm with but the school still pays me) I had a spot listed with the FUNDS dept and I was pretty excited but unfortunally things fell through as the other intern stayed on, I was needless to say quite disappointed BUT my Employment counsellor Kim managed to find me another placement! I am quite happy about that because now I have a BETTER job than before LOL! I'm a Personal Assistant to one of the managers to one of the biggest resturants in our city! (Go Aj, Go! Go! Go! AJ! LOL!) This job is for 12 weeks, now I dont' have to stay on with this job if I find other gayful employment as we're all encouraged through our Work Options to keep seeking out other work. I have been and I have an interview for a supervisors position in 2 weeks time!!! I'll be working back in a call center (which shall remained unnamed right now) but I won't be on the phones. I'll be taking on 12 employees and training people. I'm very excited about this prospect! The pay isn't too damn shabby either at $17 an hour with PAID breaks! LOL and FULL medical, and the best thing of all, it's CLOSE to my little one's daycare so I can go visit her at lunch time!!! I'm so damn stoked I PRAY I get this position... if not it's no big deal I've applied for a few jobs and I'm hoping at least one of them pan out. With all my new training and skills and updated education I've got MANY better chances at jobs I KNOW I'm suited for! All those baby steps have paid off and soon I will have my Happy ending
PS: We're moving into a new place come June or July, I'm just waiting for Ann to get back to me to let me know when the minor renovations they always do when someone moves out, will be done on my new home! (a HUGE 3 bedroom!) The front window is HUGE and the bathroom is done in all dark green ceramic tiles and the master bedroom has a WALK IN CLOSET!!! LOL! My current super and I went to go look yesterday and I fell in love with the place, the kitchen is amazingly big and the hall Cammie will love for driving her trike up and down it as it's so long! The owner also said I'm allowed to do anything "reno" wise to my place if I want. (So this means I'm allowed to paint and or replace anything I don't like) I think the only thing I'll be replacing is the kitchen counter and flooring cause it's "ugly" LOL! (orange isn't a color that should be in a kitchen!) Ann laughed when I said this and agreed. She also was impressed to learn I'm quite "handy" and said she will surly take up on my offer to help her with other places she owns for repairs which will lower my rent on the place I'll be moving to YEAH! LOL So all in all everything is looking up, things are getting better and I'm happy to say I see my "Happily ever afer" coming my way finally and the great thing is I'm SINGLE and fucking love it... I don't have to deal with melodramatics of some guy who needs to have the world revolve around him. One of these days thou when I'm brave enough I will venture back out into the dating world, till then I shall just sit back and watch the goofballs of the male population TRY and catch my attention while I sit back and laugh at them for their stupid antics (acting like a peacock strutting their stuff, all for nothing because I'm NOT intrested) *believe me I've had 9 fellas ask me out* There was only one I went out with and he FAILED to catch my attention and he HAS a good job, main reason why I didn't go for him... he's a slob, and he thinks kids are "expensive toys" ... Yeah NOT A FUCKING CHANCE DUDE!
Pretty good all I have to do is watch and listen and I can spot the assholes a mile away...(makes me wonder why I didn't see that with my ex, he fooled even my aunt and uncle and they are LIVID over it!) Anyway I'm in a fantastic mood and I'm going to go spend some time with my kiddies (we had a BLAST yesterday) This week is going to be very busy as my oldest has surgery coming up and will be out of school for over a week once things are all done and I want to spend as much time with him as I can prior to this.
Have a WONDERFUL day everyone and remember, baby steps can get you just as far as running, the best part is you're less likely to fall as often